You said yes—to the job, the relationship, the committee, the belief. At the time, it felt right. You made the best choice you could with the information, values, and capacity you had. And for a while, it served its purpose.
But now? Something feels off. You’re showing up, doing the thing, going through the motions—but the spark is gone. You’ve grown, shifted, and evolved, and the old choice doesn’t fit who you are today.
This is the moment I call re-deciding.
We often hesitate to change direction. We fear rocking the boat, hurting feelings, or letting someone down. We cling to commitments out of habit, loyalty, or guilt. But what if those nagging feelings—the frustration, the restlessness, the quiet dread—aren’t signs that you’re failing, but rather signals that you’re ready to choose again?
Re-deciding is not about quitting or giving up. It’s about acknowledging your growth and taking full responsibility for the life you want to live now—not the one you committed to then.
It’s a conscious, empowered act of asking:
- Does this still work for me?
- Is this choice aligned with who I’m becoming?
- What do I value now, and what do I want more of?
Re-deciding is the permission slip you didn’t know you needed.
It honors your evolution and allows space for new direction. It’s one of the most powerful shifts you can make: to recognize that you are allowed to choose again—always.
When to Consider Re-Deciding:
In Misunderstood, I wrote about Fed-upness—those emotional and physical cues that whisper (or scream) that something’s off. Here are some common signs:
- You’re complaining a lot.
- You’re constantly feeling irritated, drained, or discontent.
- The joy you once had for this decision has faded; now it just feels like an obligation.
- You’re going through the motions, disconnected from your “why.”
- You feel depleted or resentful, even after giving your best.
- A past “yes” would absolutely be a “no” if asked today.
- You catch yourself saying “have to” or “should” more than “want to.”
- Your inner voice keeps whispering, “This isn’t right,” or “There has to be more.”
Maybe it’s a draining job, a mismatched relationship, an outdated family role, or a belief rooted in fear. Whatever it is, you always have the right to reassess and re-decide.
Where to Start:
- Self-Awareness:
Notice your thoughts, your energy, and your emotions. Pay attention to when you’re most lit up—and when you feel off. What are your body, heart, and mind trying to communicate. - Self-Honesty:
Check in with yourself. Ask: What has changed? What am I feeling? What do I need? Lying to yourself might keep the peace temporarily, but it blocks your growth. Honesty is the first act of clarity. - Self-Referencing:
Look inward. What matters to you now? What do you truly want—not what others expect? Trust your internal compass, especially when the path forward feels murky or hard. - Self-Permission:
You don’t need a dramatic reason to change. You’re allowed to evolve. You’re allowed to change your mind. That’s what growth requires. - Self-Responsibility:
No one can re-decide for you. It’s your life, your energy, your future. Choosing again isn’t selfish or weak. It’s a bold, loving act of accountability.
Change is inevitable. Progress is intentional.
Dig a Little Deeper:
Acknowledge the discomfort.
Most people prefer the familiarity of discomfort over the uncertainty of change. That fear, guilt, or resistance? It often means you’re close to something meaningful.
Get curious.
Ask yourself: How did this decision once serve me? What’s shifted? What do I really need now?
Check your alignment.
Does this decision still reflect your core values and long-term goals? Talk it out with someone you trust.
Choose again—intentionally.
You might choose the same path. But doing so with conscious alignment feels entirely different. That’s the power of re-deciding.
Because you are not stuck. You’re simply being invited to grow.
You Don’t Have to Do This Alone!
If your inner voice is nudging you toward change, let’s explore that together. Whether you’re navigating a major life shift or just feeling the quiet pull for something more, I offer a safe, non-judgmental space to help you re-decide with clarity and confidence.
I have the tools and resources to guide you through this powerful process. Let’s get intentional about your next chapter.
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