Not so fast…
Let’s talk radical Self – Responsibility.
I don’t know where it came from. 🤷♀️
I’m not sure how long it’s been around.
I didn’t even know it existed until recently.
In listening to myself speak about 2024 goals and aspirations, I quickly realized that I had fallen prey to some faulty, magical thinking. The type of thinking that lets you off the hook, that assumes things will somehow get better on their own, or that the new year will empower different results.
The truth is, you bring YOU and all your old habits, beliefs, and behaviors into the new year. This magical thinking about a New Year / New You is really a crock unless you’re very intentional about what you want.
Magical thinking is subtle, seemingly harmless, and yet feeds a lot of B.S. that and keeps you in denial for way too long.⌚
This was evident in a very important area of my life.
Here’s how it’s played out in my mind, often very subconsciously.
- Someday things will be different.
- Somehow my health will improve.
- Someday it’s going to figure itself out.
- Someday this extra weight will be gone, and my body won’t hurt the way it always does.
- Somehow this will get better.
Maybe it’s something you’ll recognize in yourself.
The naïve, child-like fantasy of “Someday” and “Somehow”.
Can you relate?!?
Where did that fantasy come from? I know better and you probably do too.👎
Self-Honesty and Self-Responsibility are two S.O.S. (Sense of Self) tools I teach about.
I practice these tools daily in many areas.
I know their power and I teach 👩🏫 about them daily.
Yet, I wasn’t applying these principles to one of the most important areas of my life – my health! ⚕️
And, if I’m fully honest, I’ve been resisting and arguing with reality for a very long time.
Here’s my reality:
I don’t eat sugar. 🍭
I haven’t eaten gluten in over 10 years. 🍞
I don’t drink soda or sports drinks. 🥤
If you’ve been to my office, you know how much water I drink. 💦
I eat my fruits and veggies every day. 🍎🥦
I work out in some fashion seven days a week. 🏃♀️
Yet still, I carry extra weight on my body, and I have the aches and pains of an 80-year-old human.
To quote Garth Brooks “I’m much too young to feel this damn old…”
Despite my efforts, something isn’t working, and I’m mad 😡 about it.
I don’t think it’s fair.
I don’t think I should have to work this hard.
I don’t want to face it.
And I don’t think things should be this way.
I’ve been arguing with reality, which is silly because reality ALWAYS wins regardless of what I think or feel.
So, this year, instead of some magical New Year / New You jargon, I’ve started to practice my own tools on a much deeper level.
I’ve committed to Self-Honesty. Fair or not, what I’m doing isn’t working to support the health and well-being I want.
Acceptance doesn’t mean you like it. It means you see things as they are, not how you want them to be, and adjust yourself accordingly.
Also, Self-Responsibility– it’s up to you to change, no one else. What are you ready to do and what are the steps you’re willing to take? The quality of your life is up to you.
📍Truth is one of the highest frequencies we can carry, and it can be difficult to face.
I wasn’t telling myself the truth. Yes, I have a lot of great habits AND several bad habits were over-riding the good ones, creating less than desirable results.
What do you need to start telling yourself the truth about?
What areas are you allowing the magical thinking of someday or somehow?
What’s the toll of these patterns?
📍Self-Responsibility includes knowing when to ask for help.🆘
So, I’ve hired someone to walk along side of me.🚶♀️
I’ve paid the money, shared honestly, and have a plan of action that I follow daily.
I have consistent check-ins that force me to look at my behavior and decisions.
What does personal responsibility look like to you?
What areas are you over-looking, denying, or neglecting?
What’s an action step you can take to become more responsible for the quality of your life?
📍Self – Honesty and Self – Responsibility also include accountability.
My best efforts haven’t gotten me where I want to be.
I am a source of support and accountability for a lot of people, but I also need that for myself.
What do you need accountability for?
How can accountability help inspire and activate more consistent results?
I am ready to create and establish a New Year/ New Me without the magical thinking of “Someday” and “Somehow”. YAY!!🎉🎊
How about you?
- What naive beliefs or destructive patterns do you need to address?
- Where have you fallen prey to this magical thinking?
- How has “Someday” and “Somehow” impacted you?
- What are you committing to this year?
- What are you ready to do differently?
- How can I support you in launching a real “New Year / New You” lifestyle?
You don’t have to do this alone.