Lesson 20: Self-Referencing
Early in life, it’s healthy and necessary to seek the input, direction, and guidance from someone outside of yourself. Allowing others to decide, dictate, and define your roles, behavior, and path is necessary during those early stages. Looking for information, assurance, and clarification may have kept you safe and out of trouble. Yet, at some point, it becomes important to test your wings and set out on your own course. It’s vital that you tune inward, trust your deepest knowing, and start making your own decisions.
Self-referencing is the ability to know what’s in your best interest and act accordingly. It is your ability to explore options, resources, and attempt to solve problems on your own. It enables you to decipher and determine a right course of action and be resilient when things don’t work out or when you need to explore alternatives. Self-referencing allows you to trust yourself as you rely on your inner knowing, strengths, and capabilities and also know when to ask for help and from whom.
- Learn to make your own decisions
- Seeking wisdom from within, rather than outside of yourself
- Be your best advocate, resource, and inspiration
- Embrace your core values and align your thoughts, words, and behaviors with these
- Recognize and trust your ability to solve problems
- Trust your inner G.P.S. (Gut, Perception, Senses). Use it to help you navigate decisions
- Eliminate any patterns of perfecting, pleasing, and performing
- Use yes and no appropriately
- Seek input from wise counsel only when necessary
- Stand alone in what you know is right for you
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