October is my birthday month. This year, I turn 55. 🎂🎈

I love birthdays – mine and other people’s – and I’ve been excited to plan, dream, and celebrate.

Until recently, when one of my dearest friends died. Suddenly, things feel very different. 💔🕊️

Samantha was the most spontaneous, fun-loving, adventurous person I’ve ever met. 🌟 She embraced life in a way that made you want to embrace it too. 🫂 She filled every room with her vibrant spirit and even with the distance between us, we remained friends for decades. 👭💫

Life as I knew it has stopped.

How do you say goodbye to someone you’ve loved for more than 40 years? Someone who was fun-loving, kindhearted, spontaneous, and had an astounding zest for life?

You don’t. You can’t. Instead, you carry pieces of them with you. You honor them by paying attention and allowing their life to change the way you live yours. 🌱✨

Because here’s the thing – We act like we have time, like we can wait for when things settle down. But the truth is, things never settle down… until they do and often it’s too late.

So now, standing at the edge of 55, I’m thinking less about the number of years I’ve lived and more about how I want to live the years I still have.

I’m not waiting anymore. 🚫⏳

Hard Truth💥

Losing someone you love has a brutal way of cutting through the boredom, the burdens, and the bullshit.

If you let it, it will bring you face to face with some hard truths and equally hard questions.

What really matters?
Who really matters?
What are you tolerating that is costing you precious pieces of your life?
What are you putting off?
Where are you waiting, playing small, over-functioning, pleasing, or performing instead of actually participating in your own life?
What would you do differently if you stopped living your life from the sidelines?
What are you waiting for?

Those aren’t hypothetical questions for me anymore. 🎯

55 Years In 🗓️

One of the biggest lessons I’m carrying into 55 is this:💡

Life doesn’t wait for anyone. No one comes through it unscathed either.

We all experience pain, loss, and heartache and if you’re really living, your doses of these will probably be higher than most. I feel that with Sam’s absence. 💔😢

A successful life isn’t one based solely on your wallet or accomplishments, nor bad habits of exhaustion, over-functioning, people-pleasing, waiting, or over-thinking.

A really successful life is built with openness, curiosity, playfulness, and willingness to get in the game – even if you lose.

A really successful life is based on the people you love, the relationships you nurture, the experiences you embrace, and the things that make you excited to get out of bed. 💖

I don’t want to wait. I don’t want to be so busy managing life that I forget to experience it.
I don’t want to postpone living. I want to be here – awake, alert, and alive!
I don’t want to save joy for when everything is done.

Because everything is never done… until it is. ⏰🛑

While We’re Still Here 🕊️💫

So I’ve solidified my plans for October. I’m celebrating the life and memory of my friend and then I will travel. 🙌

For the month of October- and every day I get to be here – I want to be present to life.

I’ve updated my bucket list and written so many things down I’ve had to use the edges of the pages. I will say yes and no more deliberately.

I will seize every moment possible in honor and memory of my dear friend.
I will feel the pain and joy of it all.
I will feel the sharp edges of both loving her and losing her – because that is the cost of living.

Most importantly, I want to challenge myself—and you too —to stop waiting.

Start dreaming. Start planning. Take action. No matter how big or how small, seize what is possible!

You have a responsibility to yourself and the life you’ve been granted.

Create your own rules and guidelines to really start living 🙌 😊

Make the call.
Get in the picture.
Say the thing out loud.
Forgive when it’s right.
Leave when it’s right.
Rest when you need to.
Wear the dress.
Stop nursing the grudge.
Look someone in the eyes.
Put your phone down.
Ask the question.
Make the statement.
Open your mind and your heart.
Take the trip.
Try something new.
Tell people you love them.
Let yourself be seen.
Stop negotiating on the things that matter to you.
Laugh loudly.
Love generously.
Do the thing you’ve been waiting to do.

And ask yourself: Am I really living my life? 🤔❓

This October, I’m choosing to live life. All 55 years of it.

And Samantha, I’ll carry your zest for life with me in every moment. ❤️

Here’s to being alive. And here’s to really living. 🥂 🥳

And if you don’t know, I’m so grateful our paths have crossed. 🤗 🌟

What about you? What is one thing you’ve been putting off that your soul is asking for right now?

If you feel moved to share, simply hit reply to this email. I read every single response, and I’d love to hear what you’re choosing to step into this month. 🤍

“To live is so startling it leaves little time for anything else.”

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I was at yoga the other day and overheard a conversation that stopped me in my tracks. A few women were talking about their New Year goals and intentions. Of course, my ears perked up.

One woman was excitedly sharing a long-term dream — retiring someday and finding a small home on a large piece of property. You could hear the hope and possibility in her voice.

Another woman responded with a sneer:
“Yeah right… good luck with that.”

Ouch.

Almost immediately, the first woman shrank. Her energy dropped as she said,
“I know. I probably need to give that dream up. It’ll never happen anyway.”

Just like that — her dream was squashed.

I left yoga still thinking about that exchange, and I want to reflect on it from two important angles.

FIRST: THE IMPACT OF WHAT WE OFFER OTHERS

When someone shares their hopes or dreams with you, how do you respond?

Even if you have doubts…
Even if you wouldn’t choose the same thing…
Even if you think it’s unlikely…

Can you still hold space? Can you be a voice of assurance and possibility?

There is enough defeat, fear, and negativity in the world. We don’t need to add to it. Sometimes the most supportive response is encouragement, curiosity, or silence.

Like germs, doubt spreads easily.
Be mindful of what you pass along.

SECOND: HOW MUCH POWER DO YOU GIVE OPO?

Now let’s talk about the first woman.

How easily are you swayed by OPO — Other People’s Opinions?

How much weight do you give to comments, tone, facial expressions, or doubt disguised as being “realistic”?

With my coaching clients, I use an exercise called The Boardroom.
Who gets a seat at your table? Who gets to weigh in on your life?

These are not cheap seats. Consider very carefully who you allow to take a seat at your table.

TWO TOOLS FOR WHEN OPO KNOCKS YOU OFF CENTER

1 – SELF-ANCHORING

Self-Anchoring helps you find your footing when stress, chaos, or disapproval knocks you off center. It allows you to anchor into your truth, values, and decisions.

Self-Anchored Responses:
• Saying nothing but internally sweeping away their opinion to discard the unnecessary input
• “I believe anything is possible. It never hurts to dream.”
• Remembering their response says more about them than you

2 – SELF-REFERENCING

Self-Referencing shifts the focus inward, allowing you to inquire within about your thoughts, feelings, preferences, and desires. Many of us “other-reference” – seeking the input and opinions of what other’s believe to be true or right for us, open to what they think we should or shouldn’t do. We easily subscribe to their preferences and lose value of our own “knowing” and ability to decide and discern.

Your dreams don’t need consensus. They need commitment. Self-referencing means your inner voice gets consulted before the outside world weighs in. Other people’s opinions are information — not evidence or fact. Not everyone deserves a seat at the table where your dreams are discussed.

Wise counsel has a place, but your intuition doesn’t need permission. Protect your dreams like they matter — because they do.

Before seeking outside input, ask:
• How do I feel about this?
• What do I want?
• Does this align with my values and needs?
• Am I seeking guidance — or permission?

Those answers provide everything you need to know.

Your Invitation:

Pay Attention to:
• How you respond to other people’s dreams
• Who you allow to influence yours
• Whether you anchor or absorb
• Whether you self-reference or outsource your truth

Your dreams deserve respect and proper care and attention.
Not everyone earns a seat at your table.

February Quotes: Dreams, OPO & Sense of Self

• Doubt spreads quickly. Be mindful of what you pass on — and what you take in.
• Just because someone can’t imagine it doesn’t mean it isn’t possible.
• Self-anchoring is the ability to stay steady when someone else tries to knock you off center.
• You don’t have to absorb every comment you hear. Some things are meant to bounce off.
• Stability isn’t silence — it’s knowing when not to engage.
• When you stop outsourcing your truth, clarity shows up fast.
• These are not cheap

The Boardroom Exercise: Who Has a Seat at Your Table?

This exercise helps you become intentional about who influences your mindset, mood, goals, and dreams. Not everyone deserves access to your inner boardroom. These are not cheap seats.

Step 1: Picture Your Boardroom

Imagine a large boardroom table. This table represents your thoughts, decisions, dreams, and direction. Only a limited number of chairs surround the table.

Step 2: Who’s Currently Sitting There?

List the people or roles whose voices currently influence you:

Name / Role:
Influence on You:
Helpful or Harmful:

Step 3: Who Earns a Seat?

These are people who encourage growth, respect your values, and can hold space without diminishing your dreams.
Name / Role:
Why They Deserve a Seat:

Step 4: Who Needs to Be Removed or Moved Back?

Some voices may need to be removed, moved back, or listened to less often.

Write down who you are reclaiming power from:

Step 5: Self-Anchoring Check

When someone challenges or dismisses your dreams, what helps you stay grounded?

Examples: taking a breath, saying nothing, using a one-line boundary, or reminding yourself that their response says more about them than you.

Step 6: Self-Referencing Questions

Before seeking outside input, ask yourself:
• How do I feel about this?
• What do I want?
• Does this align with my values and needs?
• Am I seeking guidance — or permission?

Closing Reflection

Your dreams deserve protection, encouragement, and intention.
Be selective with who you invite into your inner boardroom.
Not everyone gets a vote.

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How Real Change Happens: The Power of Small, Consistent Choices

A year ago, I saw a picture of myself and felt both saddened and startled by what I saw. The image reflected someone I barely recognized. Not in a self-critical or shaming way — but in a clear, undeniable wake-up call.

What I saw didn’t reflect who I knew myself to be or how I wanted to show up in the world. And no amount of training, credentials, or experience could soften that moment. It was honest. It was uncomfortable. And it made one thing clear:

It was time to get real with myself.

Where Real Change Begins:

Change doesn’t start with motivation.
It starts with Self-Honesty.

Self-Honesty is one of the S.O.S. (Sense of Self) tools I write about in Misunderstood. It’s the ability to tell yourself the truth — not harshly, not judgmentally — but clearly.

It’s much easier to focus on what other people should do. To look at someone else’s life and identify the habits, patterns, and choices that aren’t working. After more than 30 years in practice, I’m very good at helping others recognize where change is needed — educating, equipping, and empowering them to do something different.

Doing that for myself has been harder.

I had to ask myself some uncomfortable questions:

• How did I get here?
• What am I actually doing day to day?
• What behaviors and habits am I overlooking or normalizing?
• What am I doing that doesn’t support who I want to be?

The answers weren’t dramatic. They were subtle — easy to justify, minimize, and explain away.

What I Started to Notice:

I became aware of patterns that had slowly turned into “normal,” a way of living that didn’t seem like a big deal — until I actually paid attention:

• Running on autopilot and relying on mind-numbing distractions
• Mindless living: scrolling, TV, habits, and routines on repeat
• Taking extra bites and consuming larger portions without awareness
• Using alcohol to celebrate, to unwind, to socialize — and honestly, at times, to numb and distract

And here’s a question worth sitting with:
Why is alcohol the only poison in our society that we’re expected to justify not using?

None of these behaviors felt extreme or problematic. There were no dramatic consequences forcing change. This could have easily been a moment I ignored — minimized — and slid right back into unconscious living.

But I have the tools.
And it’s my responsibility to use them.

Self-Honesty opened the door to Self-Awareness. Once I admitted what wasn’t working, I could finally see the patterns I’d been ignoring.

Self-Awareness: Seeing What’s Really There

Before anything could change, Self-Awareness had to come online.

This is the practice of paying attention — noticing your thoughts, behaviors, and patterns without rushing to fix or defend them.

Some habits had become so familiar that I didn’t even notice them anymore. Their cumulative impact was subtle, like the lobster slowly boiling without realizing how hot and dangerous the water had become.

Awareness doesn’t demand immediate action.
It presents a choice.

It simply asks you to pay attention.
To stay present.

And presence can change everything.

Not Drinking: A Small Choice That Created Space

As I began paying closer attention, one thing became impossible to ignore: the role alcohol was playing in my life.

Not because of a crisis.
Not because of consequences.
But because I wanted clarity.

Choosing not to drink became a small, consistent practice — not a rule, not an identity, not a declaration. It started with awareness and a single honest choice rooted in Self-Honesty.

I had to acknowledge that I was doing something regularly that wasn’t serving me or moving me toward who I wanted to be.

What I wanted instead was:

• More presence
• More regulation
• More honest feedback from my body, emotions, and nervous system

Slowly, that one small change began to strengthen my relationship with myself in ways I didn’t expect.

Self-Responsibility: Power Without Shame

The third S.O.S. tool, Self-Responsibility, is often misunderstood.

This isn’t about blame.
It’s not pressure.
It’s not “you should do better.”

Self-Responsibility is empowerment.
It’s the willingness to say:
This is my life, my body, my nervous system — and I get to choose how I care for it.

Instead of trying to overhaul everything, I focused on what was sustainable:

• Smaller, more intentional portions
• Sitting down at meals to be present and mindful
• Daily meditation and reflection — not long, not fancy, just consistent
• Fewer numbing behaviors and more intentional use of time
• And, just for today, no alcohol

No drastic changes.
No dramatic declarations.

Just repetition — day after day — of what was working.

Why Small Habits Matter

Most people believe change needs to be intense to be effective.
But real change doesn’t happen through intensity.
It happens through consistency.

Research shows that habits form through repeated actions in response to specific cues, and that small, manageable changes are more likely to stick over time.

Small habits build:

• Manageable, sustainable momentum
• Self-trust
• Regulation
• Integrity
• A stronger sense of self

Points of Awareness:

Socialization
Alcohol is deeply embedded in our culture. It’s everywhere. People often question why you’re not drinking, as if it’s a social requirement that needs explaining.

Stress
Alcohol quickly shifts your physical, mental, and emotional state. Not using it forced me to find other ways to regulate stress and overwhelm — without numbing.

Self-Identity
So much social connection revolves around drinking. Removing it invited honest reflection: Who am I without this? What do I actually enjoy? Who do I genuinely feel good being around?

This hasn’t always been easy. And I won’t pretend it has been.

Sobriety is a big deal — even when you don’t have a “problem,” just unhelpful habits. Not drinking required me to look closely at myself, my relationships, my coping, and my mindset.

And I like what I see now.

Each time you follow through on a small, aligned choice, you reinforce safety and trust within yourself. That relationship is the foundation.

The Bigger Shift

Nearly a year later, the changes are noticeable — but more importantly, they’re felt.

Not because I had to fix myself.
But because I made a choice every day to stay present — with what I was doing and why I was doing it.

This is what I want people to understand:

If change is going to happen, it requires participation.

Self-Awareness.
Self-Honesty.
Self-Responsibility.

These are tools you can use to create any change you want.

Real change isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about returning to yourself—one honest choice at a time.

An Invitation:

If something in your life feels off, resist the urge to overhaul everything.

Start here:

What small habit could you change today? How might your life look different in a year if you started now?

• Self-Awareness:What am I noticing?
• Self-Honesty:What’s actually true?
• Self-Responsibility:What choice am I ready to make?

That’s how real change happens.
Steadily.
Consistently.
One honest choice at a time.

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✨ Self-Referencing During the Holidays ✨ 
🎄 Give by Choice, Not by Compulsion 🎄 

Your Terms & Conditions:
Here we are again… The holidays…
It can be a beautiful mix of connection and celebration — but let’s be honest, they can also stir up chaos, conflict, obligation, and overwhelm.
There can be as much pain as there is pleasure, if not more.
Let’s do this differently❣️
Before you find yourself tangled in traditions, expectations, or “shoulds,” I invite you to break out your copy of “Misunderstood”, specifically the S.O.S. (Sense of Self) Tools and try something radical this season! Today, let’s focus on the tool of Self-Referencing‼️💫

Most of us know how to “other-reference” by asking questions or making statements such as:
“What should I do?”
“What’s expected of me?”
“What will they think?”
“I can’t upset them.”

Self-Referencing is different. It empowers you to look within and to check your commodities of Time, Effort, and Energy. That means, before you offer an automatic “yes”, you check in with you first — your well-being, your needs, and your values.

Here’s how to use it:

• How do I want to celebrate this year?
• Who do I enjoy spending time with and feel good around?
• What do I really want or need right now?
• Do I have it to give and why am I doing what I’m doing?
• What are my boundaries for this situation? For example – Do I need to drive separately? Can I stay for a few hours rather than all day? Will I leave if the drinking begins?

When you Self-Reference, you make choices that are right for you — not driven by guilt, obligation, fear, or habit. You stay in charge of your experience and act in your best interest.
This isn’t selfish; it’s Self-Honoring 😍

🎁 Giving by Choice, Not Compulsion
Let’s be clear — you don’t have to give of your Time, Effort, or Energy just because it’s the holidays or because someone else expects something from you. You don’t have to buy, host, stay all day, spend, or overextend yourself to please others or to prove yourself. It’s worth considering what you’re doing and why you’re doing it.
True generosity comes from overflow, not depletion.
Before you say yes, ask:

• What’s my motive? Am I doing this because I want to or because I feel I should?
• Will this bring peace or drain my energy?
• Am I trying to create connection or please and avoid conflict?

Remember, Self-Honesty too❣️ When your giving comes from choice, it carries clarity, not resentment.

❤️ Your Holiday Reminder
This season, give yourself permission to:
✅ Set boundaries without guilt
✅ Redefine what “giving” means
✅ Say no without justification
✅ Rest, restore, and reconnect with what matters most

You are the author of your life, not a character in someone else’s holiday script.
Write your own terms.
Give when it’s genuine.
Say no when it’s necessary.
And remember — Self-Referencing is one of the most generous gifts you can offer yourself.
I’ll offer Self-Honoring, Self-Responsibility, and Self-Permission to add to your toolbox too🛠️💚

✨ With Intention,
Allyson Blythe, LCSW & Certified Life Coach
Educate • Equip • Empower
🌐 www.allysonblythe.com
📞 (859) 341-7773
📧 allysonblythe@live.com

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Let’s Really Communicate 💬 💑
Are you ready to transform the way you communicate?!?

Communication is at the heart of every relationship—whether with your partner, kids, colleagues, friends, or even yourself. Yet for something we do every single day, it’s also one of the easiest places to get stuck, tangled, and hurt.

Why? Because most of us were never taught how to truly communicate. We picked up habits—assumptions, blame, defensiveness, avoidance—that create distance instead of closeness. We learned ineffective patterns and language that does more harm than good, even with the people we love most.

This is why I love Nonviolent Communication (NVC), a framework developed by Marshall Rosenberg that shifts us from conflict to connection. It fosters Self-Awareness and Self-Responsibility to understand and communicate what’s going on inside of you. NVC helps you do that by focusing on three simple steps that transform awareness and communication: feelings, needs, and strategies.

Let me walk you through the tool—and then invite you to practice it with me at my upcoming workshop.
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Step 1: Start with Feelings

First things first: there are no bad feelings—none! Feelings are simply signals pointing to what’s happening inside of us. But here’s the catch: most of us confuse feelings with judgments.

Words like disrespected, abandoned, or rejected aren’t true feelings—they’re interpretations of someone else’s behavior. Real feelings are words like hurt, angry, lonely, disappointed, sad, excited, or hopeful. I’ll offer you an entire “menu” of feelings for deeper awareness.

Too often, instead of naming our feelings, we jump into blame:
• “I feel so left out.”
• “I feel like you never listen to me.”

These phrases actually hide judgments inside the word feel. And that triggers defensiveness.

Instead, authentic feelings open the door to connection:
• ✅ “I feel hurt when you cancel our plans.”
• ✅ “I feel lonely when I don’t hear from you during the day.”

💡 Practice: The next time you feel reactive, pause and ask: What am I truly feeling right now? Choose simple, clear words like hurt, anxious, relieved, grateful, or frustrated.
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Step 2: Identify Needs

Ever gone to the refrigerator, snacked aimlessly, and walked away still unsatisfied? It wasn’t about the food—you didn’t know what you were really hungry for. Communication works the same way.

Beneath every feeling is a need. When needs are met, we feel good. When they aren’t, we feel frustrated, disconnected, or “hungry” for something more.

For example:
• Feeling frustrated? Maybe you need clarity, respect, or fairness.
• Feeling lonely? Maybe you need connection, belonging, or affection.
• Feeling peaceful? Your needs for safety, rest, or balance are probably met.

Recognizing needs shifts us out of blame:
• ❌ “You make me so mad!”
• ✅ “I need more clarity about our plans.”

💡 Practice: When you notice a strong emotion, ask: What need is underneath this feeling?
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Step 3: Make Clear Strategies (Not Demands)

Once you know your feelings and needs, the next step is to make a specific strategy. These are ways you want to meet a need. You may be able to meet the need on your own or you may make a request of someone else. Here’s where most people trip up—we either don’t ask at all (and stew in silence), or we make demands that push people away.

I will lay out a simple method to make clear, respectful, doable requests—strategies that meet needs without forcing or blaming.

For example:
• ❌ “You never listen!” → ✅ “Would you be willing to put your phone down while we talk for 10 minutes?”
• ❌ “You don’t care about me!” → ✅ “Can we could set aside one evening this week to walk together?”

Notice how the second versions are actionable, collaborative, and respectful.

💡 Practice: When tempted to criticize, pause and ask: What’s one specific request I can make that would help meet my need?
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Why It Matters

When you use feelings, needs, and strategies, you:
• Take responsibility for your feelings and needs.
• Speak with clarity and respect.
• Invite connection instead of defensiveness.
• Build trust and safety in your relationships.

The result? Self-empowerment and relationships where people feel seen, valued, and respected.

Simple? Yes. Easy? Not always. Worth it? Absolutely❣️
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✨ Action Step

Pick one relationship where communication feels strained.

Write this sentence:
“I feel ___ because I need ___.”

Then, create one clear, specific request that could bring more clarity and connection into that relationship.
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Ready to Strengthen Your Communication?

I’d love to help you practice these tools in a safe, supportive space. This isn’t just about communication—it’s about self-awareness and self-responsibility that you can apply at home, at work, and in any relationship, even the relationship you have with yourself!

📅 Tuesday, November 11, 2025
🕕 6:00 – 8:15 PM
📍 Story Point, 9255 US 42, Union, KY
💲 $55 per person

At this workshop, you’ll walk away with:
• Clear, confident ways to express your thoughts and feelings 🗣️💬
• Insight into the core needs driving your behavior 🤔
• Tools to stop self-sabotaging patterns 😫➡️😊
• A 3-step process for deeper connection in relationships 🧠💡
• Strategies to avoid the Top 10 Communication Mistakes 🙅‍♀️🔧

This workshop has already helped hundreds of people transform how they relate, connect, and communicate. In just two hours, you’ll leave with practical tools you can use immediately‼️

✨ 👉 Don’t wait to sign up. This workshop sells out every year!
the-art-of-effective-communication
Much love,
~ Allyson 💙

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I was a jerk the other day. 😫
Not on purpose—not even consciously. But the truth is, I was. And it taught me a powerful lesson, with a huge dose of humility to swallow. 💊

I had a doctor’s appointment at a local hospital. Navigating through the parking areas, I found myself behind a large city bus.🚍 We came to a four-way stop, and the bus driver halted and turned on his flashers🛑. I stopped and waited, assuming it would only be a moment. But as the seconds dragged on, I started to grow restless. 😕

I couldn’t see what was happening in front of the bus. I kept glancing in my mirrors, watching cars stack up behind me. I started to imagine their frustration and felt a creeping pressure to do something—anything. That imagined pressure became real in my body. Even though no one was honking, I felt rushed, responsible, and anxious to make a decision. I was writing a story and making assumptions. My sense of responsibility was overreaching, and I felt pressure to take action.
So, I did.

Impulsively, I pulled into the opposite lane and slowly drove around the bus.
And that’s when I saw him‼️😲

An elderly gentleman was halfway through the crosswalk, moving slowly and cautiously with a walker.
The bus driver had stopped to protect him and allow him the space and time he needed.
And I… I had just tried to maneuver around them both.
My heart sank. I was mortified🤯😵

I stopped immediately, offering an apologetic wave to the man and to the bus driver.
But it was too late. The damage was done. Not physically, thank God. But energetically. Emotionally. And internally.

That moment haunted me the rest of the day and even a little still.

Here’s what I see now:

• I made a decision based on a limited perspective.
• I filled in the blanks with assumptions and false stories.
• I acted out of an imagined sense of urgency and excessive responsibility  that didn’t actually exist.
• I responded to pressure that no one else was placing on me.

And to add to it, I’m sure if I had witnessed this same behavior from another driver, I would’ve immediately reacted, jumped to a conclusion, assigned a negative motive or intent to the driver without offering much grace or mercy.
No one did that to me. The bus driver, the gentleman, nor any of the other drivers added shame to my plate. It was already full enough, but I was able to process through it better without anyone else adding to the heap. As much as I appreciated their tolerance of my poor judgement, I realize I don’t always extend the same consideration to others. Again… humbling.

But here’s the thing about humility—it’s impact is powerful, if we allow it to be.
If we’re willing to learn from it instead of running from it, humility has the power to transform us.
We are human and even when we don’t mean to, we act impulsively, from a limited perspective, based on real and perceived stories, and we aren’t always at our best.

As a coach, I spend a lot of time talking with people about slowing down, staying curious, and not reacting from old patterns. And yet here I was—caught in a moment where I did the exact opposite. And it reminds me that we’re all human. We all get it wrong sometimes. The real work is what we do with those moments afterward.

I needed that dose of humility. It reminded me to pause. To breathe. To check the stories I’m telling myself. And to stay rooted in what I do know, not what I think I know.
No one was hurt, thank God. But I won’t forget that moment. I don’t want to. Because it brought me back to a fundamental truth: we never see the full picture, especially in the heat of the moment. We’re all human and we all make mistakes. Extending patience, grace, and compassion can never hurt.
So, let’s give each other—and ourselves—a little more grace and space.
We’re all just trying to cross the street. 💓🚶‍♀️‍➡️

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